So I finally watched The Ugly Truth last night. It was actually really cute, I liked the message it sent. So many times we read about these crazy games we’re supposed to play when dating, and yes even I have posted some! To be honest sometimes I do play games, not intentionally, but to keep the situation at the distance I want it at. However, I think when you meet the right person those games don’t even exist on either person’s end because you just like the other person so much you don’t even think about games, all you think about is when you’re hanging out next.

When I first started watching the movie Katherine Heigl was totally acting the way I would. Telling the Ugly Truth guy he’s an ugly gross man wh*re, freaking out, whining, stressing out, over thinking, over talking, it was great. As soon as he came into the picture he had her entirely change her personality into this dream girl, no complaining, no stress, no criticizing, always be hot, flirt to keep him interested, basically sit still and look pretty. What guy wouldn’t like that? I got super stressed out because all I could think about is how much I whine and complain if I have a bad day, how was I ever going to stop? And flirting? Ahhhh my idea of flirting is 7th grade status, is about is far as I go. I couldn’t even imagine just sitting quiet, pretending to be someone I am not, just to get a date.

The movie progressed, and as most of you know her fake love with that hotttttttttttt doctor became something she didn’t even want. I have totally been in that boat. You kind of modify your personality to get what you want, all to realize that isnt what you want at all. I had an ex boyfriend who would judge me for leaving the toothpaste cap off, who hated that I had hair extensions, who hated that my favorite show was The First 48, he basically hated everything about me. Slowly I started second guessing myself… should I take my extentsions out? I won’t mention I am watching all these crime shows on tv, am I acting in a way he would approve of? GROSS! I finally realized that wasn’t a relationship I’d EVER want to be in.

I also think that is why I have always been super anti plastic surgery. Any girl can stop eating and buy boobs. Why would I want to be this perfect girl everyone wants to date? Guys are dating you for your boobs and not who you are, and they date for attraction nothing more, as soon as there is a hotter, younger girl with boobs, say bye to your man! Not every girl falls into that category but I find some girls are pretty dumb with no personalities so they buy boobs hoping to create themselves. Without the boobs no one ever paid attention to them. I want someone to like my no boobs, big butt self.

Anyway… my point is, if you are dating someone who doesn’t love who you are at the core, someone who doesn’t take the bad with the good, run. You’ll just end up unhappy in a few years anyway. The only time games are fun to play is initially and if you really don’t care about the outcome. For me, I am getting older, I really don’t have time for all these games. I need to refocus on what I want, establish my priorities, and learn to attract that person I want, instead of that person I want for one hour.

The lesson I learned from the movie was to just be yourself. The majority of men probably won’t want to date a complaining, pouty brat, but there will be a few who willingly take your bad side in exchange for your good side. Sure we could all use little self improvements here and there, but at the end of the day, never settle or change who you are because someone will love you forever for just being you