Cheating rant begins:

“I fucking HATE it that cheating is so glamourized is TV shows and movies nowadays. Seriously, ALMOST EVERY SINGLE FUCKING SHOW INVOLVES CHEATING! Everybody is doing it, so why shouldn’t you? It’s portrayed as this thing that cannot be helped; is inevitable in all relationships. BUT THAT’S NOT TRUE!

Carrie Bradshaw is the character in Sex & the City that most women relate the most to. She believes in “The One”, passion, romance, and whimsically unrealistic expectations of men. She is also unbelievably self centered when it comes to relationships. I despise this sort of girls but thankfully, I don’t have to date them.

And even she cheated. TWICE. Once on Aidan with Big, repeatedly and with no intentions to stop till she got caught by Big’s WIFE. Embarrassing. Another time while married to Big… with Aidan. I consider kissing cheating too btw. Anything that will hurt your partner is considered cheating. Just coz she saw him in Abu Dhabi and thinks it *roll eyes* MUST be destiny.

“Here’s the litmus test – if it will upset the other person when they find out, I think it’s considered cheating. So if you have to hide it, you shouldn’t be doing it.”

Oh the irony! Is this how women behave around decent men** who love them and expect to be forgiven? That love conquers all, so we can all just do according to what our loins tell us and beg later?

(**I am not talking about the horrible men who cheat I’m talking about awesome men like Aidan who loved Carrie despite all her very obvious flaws)

TRUE FUCKING LOVE.

In the real world, everything is about a love so romantic and passionate and lustful, nothing else matters, including the promise of a lifetime of commitment or the feelings of some other insignificant poor sod who loves you. IT IS RIDICULOUS.

Fine. I understand that maybe, sometimes, people see someone so right for themselves they can’t help it.

So it all boils down to COURAGE. I am a firm subscriber when it comes to having courage in life. And that’s what cheaters need, courage.

The courage to tell your partner you don’t think they are the one for you and you are settling. That they are not giving you enough blowjobs. Or that you need to fuck a prostitute in Slovakia because you like the chase – accept it or not.

Of course, cheaters often don’t see their problem with themselves or with their relationships till after they cheat, and therefore they cannot confront the problem with courage.

The first time someone cheats also involves recklessness and the inability to control one’s horniness (you may label it “attraction” or “love” or whatever euphemism you want but it’s horniness).

So here’s a guide to how you can PREVENT the cheating, and go home, think about why you almost cheated and whether you are still suitable to be in a relationship.

1) FUCKING WALK AWAY- You feel attraction towards a person at a club? He/she is chatting you up and is super funny and cute?

The moment you feel that way, just walk away! It’s not fucking hard. Make an excuse. Don’t flirt back. You don’t even have to be hostile, you just need to send the vibe that you are not interested. Yeah how do you know this person is not The One for you? Maybe you are missing out on true love by walking away!

If you are idiotic enough to believe in that, then by your own stupid logic you will meet this person again soon enough (when you are single) BECAUSE YOU TWO ARE MEANT TO BE. There, your excuses foiled.

All Carrie had to do was to walk away from the dinner with Aidan when she felt something for him. Idiot woman.

How many times do we hear of flirty texts girlfriends find on their boyfriends’ phones? And the guys are like “Oh that’s nothing what we are just friends”… I don’t get it. You don’t KNOW that a girl/guy is flirting with you? Are you fucking retarded on top of being a stinking liar? A text that starts with “How’s your day?” is nowhere NEAR innocuous and NOT appropriate when it’s asked by someone who is not close to you.

It is an INVITATION to start getting to know you better, and if you reply with intention to feel good about yourself from the positive attention from this person, YOU ARE CHEATING.

Have some balls. Don’t reply, or reply with the correct vibe, ie, “Not bad, spending the day cuddling with my girlfriend. Life is good. I’m glad I’m not the cheating sort. So wait your turn bitch.”

Yeah see? That wasn’t hard.

2) CHEATING TAKES MORE EFFORT THAN NOT CHEATING- I can never understand. Which is easier?

A. Chatting up with someone. Saving his number to an unsuspicious name. Sneaking out of the house to contact the person. Lie to your partner when they ask where you’ve been. Book a hotel room. Park/take public transport there. Engage in sexual relationships. More sneaking. Pacify your cheating partner that you are going to break up with your current partner. Spend money pacifying him. Your partner finds out. You are in utter humiliation; lose whatever you had with said person. Your partner leaves with LCD tv you two bought together. Your family and friends all know about this. Your partners’ friends spread around that you are a cheating scumbag and give you death threats. Your parents keep lamenting how awesome your ex was and how you are an idiot. You try to win your ex back, spending more money than ever. You may or may not succeed. If you do, there is forever a strain on the relationship.

OR

B. Walking away the instance you sense someone is interested in you. YOU tell me.

3) USE SOME IMAGINATION- Here. Next time you want to cheat, just imagine your partner crying and jumping off a building in grief.

She/he is saying, “Why did you do this I love you so much… I hate you. I hate you!” and he runs off and there is a brief moment where you freeze, knowing what he’s going to do and you can’t stop him because he is too far ahead and he looks back at you, with a look of grim satisfaction that you can’t hurt him anymore… and he jumps.

His family is behind you and you fall to your knees in devastation and numbness thinking this can’t have happened and the next moment his mother is pounding her fists on you for the family tragedy and you do nothing to stop her because anything is better than this regret… His father is looking over the edge, willing time to turn back but it won’t. Actions cause irreversible consequences sometimes… And you caused a death, for a moment of lewdness.

Ahem. Graphic enough? If not you can also try to picture the dead body below, brains everywhere, limps in weird angles, blood blossoming on the pavement as screams echo around. If you can still get an erection/your panties wet after that grisly image, there is something very wrong with you. Please see a psychologist.

4) USE CLOTHES TO YOUR ADVANTAGE- So. You got to the point where you are about to have sex with someone other than your partner. To get to someone’s sexual organs, one must peel of various layers of clothing, unless one is having sex with an animal of some sort.

This process normally takes some time and effort. REMEMBER AT ANY POINT YOU CAN JUST WALK AWAY!!

Peeling off a belt. NAH. Not gonna do it. Pee on the spot or whatever to gross out your partner (in case they try to rape you), and walk off!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!

5) KNOW YOURSELF- Just like paedophiles are attracted to kids, there are some people out there who are attracted to “the chase”. Sure, they are capable of love and maybe they even love one single person more than any other person they want to fuck, but they will NEVER stop cheating.

They are so addicted to the wooing process and the pleasure in finding that someone finds them attractive, they will do whatever it takes to GET that pleasure, even if it involves lying and manipulation. Such people, of course, should have the courage to admit to themselves that they are unsuitable to be in a committed relationship and to pretend otherwise to their partners is just despicable.

My advice would be to have the COURAGE to admit that your habits will not change, ever, to the person you love and see if they can accept it. If they can, fantastic! If not, well, too fucking bad. Why bother to prevent the inevitable? These cheaters should date other cheaters and just be in an open relationship! There! No more cheating!

Honestly, I can’t even remember the last time I flirted with anyone or anyone flirted with me. And yes I may be missing out on the fun but I come home to Mike’s warm loving arms and I know what we have is so so so much more than whatever could have been.

And I suppose that’s how true love makes one feel. Like you can never bear to hurt the person you love and would never do anything to risk losing him.  So if you cheat, perhaps you ain’t got what it’s supposed to be. Have the courage to break it off instead of stringing your partner along!

I may be a lot of things, but I’m never a coward. ”

What a great post, loved every inch of it! Cheaters are disgusting.

I think a lot of girls think they need a boyfriend, but realistically um… you don’t. What is even crazier is these guys the girls think they need, do nothing nice for them. I’m convinced most girls are totally in love with the idea of love and not the actual guy. I also think it has a lot to do with a loss of control. When guys back off and stop caring about the relationship, girls enter panic mode and try harder. No. Stop. Girls, most of the time when you pick up your lame-0 guy’s slack, he just ends up caring less. He sees how desperate you are to make it work and will abuse his control over you. Best thing to do? Back off. Your guy should want to be with you and want to put in equal work.

If your guy isn’t treating you the way you want and need, stop forcing it. Let him come to you and prove he wants you in his life just as much as you want him in yours. Soooo many girls want a relationship far more than the guy does or ever will, why not find someone who wants the same thing you do? Aren’t you sick of being sad? Aren’t you sick of asking him to be a good boyfriend?

Craziest part is, so many of these guys are no where nearrrr being ready for what most girls are ready for. If your boyfriend is 25 and still a mess, be ready for another 10 years of it, because now a days most men don’t mature until they’re 30+. If ever. Sure there are exceptions to every rule but from experience most men I meet or know of aren’t ready to be with someone seriously until they’re 30+. I’m 26, most girls my age are slowly, but surely winding down. Ready to calm down, stay home, be a girlfriend, however their boyfriends, around the same age, are thinking of anything but. If your guy rather party than be at home with you, if he rather hang with his friends everyday over you, let em go. Find someone who is done being wild, who is ready to be in a real relationship and who sacrifices things on his own to be with you.

Just think about these few things when evaluating your boyfriend: You should answer YES to 7-8 outta the 10. If not you’re holding onto something you probably should just let go of.

1. Does your boyfriend make you happy? I mean really happy or are you simply holding onto hope that maybe one day he will? You’ve probably been together for a bit now, if he isn’t doing things weekly to make you happy, he probably won’t start anytime soon, especially if you’re the one asking him to do it. Unfortunately most guys have to lose you to realize what they had. “Immature men learn through pain, not through words.” -Dr. Phil… Date someone mature who will work on his own for the relationship and who doesn’t have to lose you to appreciate you.

2. Does he plan nice things for you? Date nights, cooked meals, trips? They don’t have to be huge things but small reminders that he cares and enjoys spending alone time with you.

3. Does he take time to compliment you? Could be anything from your shirt to your hair. Compliments mean he notices you and wants to make you smile.

4. Does he balance his priorities and ensure you’re at the top of his list? On his own? Guys love their alone time. Let them have it. But if he’s not interested in seeing you equally as the other things he’s doing, no thanks. Good boyfriends will balance work, friends, and you.

5. Does he make you the best version of you, you can be? Is he always on your team? Always helping you out? Down to talk about your bad day? Motivates you to push yourself to the limit?

6. Does he support you unconditionally?

7. Does he communicate with you? The KEY to relationships is communication. So many problems exist because someone is afraid to bring up what is bothering them. Real men communicate and know that a quick talk can accomplish anything. Something bothering you? Your guy should listen 100% and respond. Make sure the communication ends with a solution though. No point communicating with no intentions of solving the problem.

8. Is he honest with you? Trustworthy? No trust= NO RELATIONSHIP. None. You two should be able to swap phones at anytime. Do I want to read every email in my boyfriends phone? No, that is where trust kicks in, but a good boyfriend should behave as if we are reading every email they send. Flirty texts and emails are not ok. If I can keep all my doors closed he can too. Basic respect.

9. Does he own up to you? Does he post your pics? Do people know he has a girlfriend? If your man is hiding you, there’s a probably a reason for it. Whether he’s unsure of you or the relationship, or he just wants to keep his options open… whatever bla bla reason he has is lame and all it comes down to is he doesn’t want the world knowing he’s off the market. Nexxxxt.

10. Is he open to change? Something bothering you? Men that refuse change are pointless because all relationships need give and take. If someone is adamant about being independent or holding their ground on their way, move on. My way or the highway people don’t belong in relationships.

Deep breath, deeeep breath…… long list of questions but I believe if your man has most of the above as yes’ he’s a keeper. I think having 1-10 would classify as a perfect relationship, which is of course unreasonable, so lets shoot for at least 7-8 out of 10 of the above, there is always room for improvement. If you find yourself answering NO to every question, what are you doinnngggg? I mean seriously.

We’re getting too old to be dating unruly, commitment phobia men. Most my girlfriends who do date these idiots are beautiful, fun, funny, smart and loyal so why settle? Somewhere out there, someone else wants exactly what you want as well. Ditch the fool and find someone on the same page as you. Or god forbid you exist on your own while you wait for Mr. Right. Focus on yourself, your career, your happiness, your fitness, your family, your friends, your hobbies… Soooo much to do other than cry everyday over someone who isn’t crying over you. You shouldn’t be crying period. Ever!

I read a good quote that really made me ponder relationships…

“I love the idea of “the one” but I actually believe that there isn’t a Mr. Right. There are 12,000 Mr. Rights out there but it all comes down to timing.”

I agree 100% with this quote. I think it’s all about being in the right place at the right time. Two willing people ready to create something together. Sure there are a million other things involved… attraction, personality, style, hobbies, morals, values etc etc, but I think two willing people, with basic shared interests, really can create a lasting relationship together when the timing is right. Timing is everything. So with that said, if you have an unruly man who simply isn’t on the same page as you, and you’re sick of nagging at him to be ready for something he is yearssss away from reaching… either sit down, shutttt up and deal with it or move on alone or with someone who is ready and willing to be yours.

My boy bashing rant of the day

The other night my guy friend decided to invite 2 girls to join us for a nice dinner in Vegas. I was all for it until they, um… showed up. One girl was a total mess, glammed to the max in denim booty shorts, high high stripper heels, overly glossed collagen lips, pouffy pageant hair, and a top so low I could see her boobs, bra and all. What kind of girl “friend” wears this to a nice dinner, knowing she’s about to meet her guy friend and another girl? When I freaked out about who we were eating with (Embarrassed because she looked like a paid escort) He told me who cares, shes like 35. Wait what? 35, and you’re still single, prowling around Vegas with your boobs out like you’re hot sh*t, and lemme guess, you wonder why you’re single?

When are girls going to understand you get what you give. If you send the message to the public that you’re a h*e (Denim booty shorts and a bra exposed blouse = h*e message) Then that is how people (men) will treat you. You are not seen as stylish, you are not seen as classy, you are seen as hey she could be fun tonight and well that is about it. I understand wanting to show off some sex appeal, but there is a way to wear it without showing off every body part you own.

Sure, some sick perverted man would love to call her his gf, but do you really want a man who wants you solely because you have a nice plastic surgeon? I know LOTS of girls, LOTS of who dress pretty scandalous, and I would be rich if I had a dollar every time I heard one of them say, I want a boyfriend, or no guys call me back after the first night. Um duh, hello, figure it out. Dress like a sl*t, be treated like one. Plus, if you’re over 30 and still dressing like you’re 21, that alone is a problem. I wouldn’t even have rocked her outfit on Spring Break in 03. Too small, too floozy.

Girls if you want a respectable, classy, good guy, stop dressing for the opposite. Or, if you don’t want to stop dressing like a flooze, fine, just don’t wonder why you’re in a hit it and quit it rut.

Want to avoid sending the wrong message all while remaining appealing? Stick to my rule, only expose one body part per night. If you’re wearing a low cut top, fine. Just make sure you cover up your lower half. Wanna wear a short skirt or shorts? Cute, just pair it up with a flowy tank and blazer. Wanna wear knee high boots? Again, it’s ok, just don’t pair it with a corset and mini skirt. Pair your boots up with some skinny jeans and a blazer or shorts and a blazer. It’s all about balance

Reggie apparently let Kim down easy, telling her he didn’t want to date someone in the limelight. Aka wants to be able to cheat and not be caught. Over the past few months there have been cheating whispers all over about Reggie, he was even spotted last night at New York’s club 1Oak with some little brunette Latin chick.

Reggie clearly has nothing to offer other than an income and he’s never been into the relationship as much as Kim has, so I think Kim will be much better off with him holding her back. I hope this break up is ferrrr good.

So I told you guys I would have a Valentine this year and I had to let you know that I kept my word Perfect Valentine’s weekend filled with yummy food, champagne, candy and pretty sunsets… I had such a fun weekend! I stayed in La Jolla at the

Next time you need a new, fun place to stay in San Diego definitely check out La Valencia Hotel in La Jolla. Old school hotel but still so nice, plus it’s PINK! There are also so many cute little shops and restaurants to walk around to around the hotel. One restaurant we loved was Azul La Jolla. Azul is owned by the same people that own the Brigatine and Miguel’s in case those are 2 of your faves

Instead of ordering actual entrees we ordered yummy champagne cocktails and a million side orders. Perfect meal. In need of an awesome date location? This place was super fun and delicious. Just avoid the waitress with the pony tail, she was mean. She was probably mean because I asked for sweet champagne and when she brought me dry, gross champagne I sent it back oopsie.

Anyway, La Jolla definitely is somewhere you can go and explore tons of new things. The seals are really fun to watch, the waves were huge this weekend, the sunsets were pretty and pink, and like I said tons of bars, restaurants and shops to visit. Next date night try La Jolla!

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have someone to write a love letter to besides your pet might need a few tips! So here I am to save the day

Love letters are fun and they are great gifts! The perfect Valentine’s day gift if you ask me. Guys want points forever? Write a love letter. They show your Valentine how much you care and are a great snapshot of your life together at a particular moment. Love letters tell your love how much you need him (or her) and that feels just as fab on the 14,375th reading as it does on the first.

• Make them feel it from the start. The letter could start with a nickname, Princess, Pookie, bla bla whatever it may be
• Mention why you’re writing. It might be an occasion like Valentine’s Day, but I just felt like telling you…is also a good reason.
• Affirm them. What are their best qualities? What have they done lately that you’re grateful for? What makes you smile?
• See the future. What are you looking forward to together? Seeing them tonight? Still loving him when he’s 68?
• Special delivery? Maybe leave the letter in an unexpected place. Mail it to their work, hide it in their car, under the pillow, etc..

Overall, have fun with it, it’s meant to be cute and sweet not stressful and a chore. Let it just come from the heart! Guarantee they will love it and keep it forever and ever and hey it’s free. Really want brownie points? Throw it on some colored paper and doodle some hearts

You had your chance, lost it, now take my number outta your blackberry. With the amount of men that come in and out of my life I don’t really get hung up on one or another. If it doesnt work, then no biggie, for every 1 no, there are 794 other yes’.

I also know so many guys who casually date girls, act a fool for months causing the girl to finally leave and thennn the guy runs back a few months later wanting to change and commit. Again it doesn’t work that way. Once we reach that we cant stand you point there is no turning back. There is a certain amount of bitterness inside us that will prevent us from ever liking you again, even if that’s all we ever wanted. So many guys play little games with me, half ass try to date me, causing me to get over it and disappear, all to have them crawling back months later now wanting to try. I try to convince myself to give them another shot but I physically, mentally and emotionally can’t. You look super pathetic and I’m totally over it. Most guys think they have endless chances with girls, and sure some loser girls might give you 23 tries, but no self respecting girl would ever.

Oh and what about the ex boyfriends who hit 30+, have nervous breakdowns that they’re still 30, single and getting drunk in bars with their loser friends who think the party never stops, hitting up their ex gfs wanting to settle down now. Hahaha nooope. Do yourself a favor and grab a girl while you still can. The party does stop and when you finally realize it does, your ex gf doesn’t want to hear about it. She’ll be married with kids by then anyway. So today’s lesson for men is, hey even if you might not be entirely ready for something with a girl, you should know a good thing when you see it, so if you walk right past it? Please never walk back cause we’re over it

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I love ♥Valentine’s Day♥, I don’t know why because every year I have a crappy one, but I still love it I also love quotes and wanted to give you guys a few to think about or add in your Valentine’s Day cards or crafts. People have asked me what to get their Valentines this year and since Valentine’s Day is about expressing love, I think the best gifts are those that show how you feel, crafts, pictures, flowers, letters etc…

♥Guys: Here is a TIP on Valentine’s Days, girls want to hear how much they mean to you. She would take a hand written card/note over a big gift any day! So this year plan ahead, make your Valentine something special that shows effort and emotion. Ewww emotions, I know. Frame her a picture, make her a Valentine, write her a nice card letting her know the top 10 things you love about her (For me I would need top 100 ) Plan a fun date night for the two of you, doesn’t have to be fancy, girls just want fun nights with you. Valentine’s Day is about love, not money.

♥Girls: Guys want to feel loved and cared for. Make them a nice dinner with all his favorite foods and booze. You know all those things he begs you to do that you never do every other day of the year? Do them today.  Pretty simple. Think back to something you’re always saying NO to, whatever it may be…and today say OK I also think guys secretly like flowers. Girls, you can get your guy flowers too, chances are he’s never had them and let’s be real, who doesn’t love flowers and a nice card.

Ok now for some of my favorite L♥ve quotes to get us all in the V-day m♥♥d:

Love is all you need.

Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.

Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.

The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.

You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.

There is no remedy for love but to love more.

True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.

We love with a love that is more than love.

I’ve fallen in love many times… always with you.

True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.

You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have really lived, are the moments when you have done things in a spirit of love.

The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.

Love works in miracles every day: such as weakening the strong, and stretching the weak; making fools of the wise, and wise men of fools; favoring the passions, destroying reason, and in a word, turning everything upside down.

Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be.

To fear love is to fear life, and those who fear life are already three parts dead.

What I need to live has been given to me by the earth.  Why I need to live has been given to me by you.

Without love, the rich and poor live in the same house.

True love stories never have endings.

You know when you have found your prince because you not only have a smile on your face but in your heart as well.

Love me and the world is mine.

What the world really needs is more love and less paper work.

Falling in love is  hard on the knees.

Nelly On whether you should confess to cheating, even if you don’t get caught…

Obviously no one wants to get cheated on and no one wants to hurt the person they are with. I think its one of those things where” to each its own”. No relationship is the same and I think that is what we are forgetting when we look at this. A relationship should be whatever makes those two people happy. That’s what we forget. Everyone is trying to stereotype what a relationship should be. If those two people are happy, that’s the way it should be. I hate when you look at all these books on how to make a relationship work. How the hell you are going to say how to make a relationship work when people aren’t the same? Their environment aren’t the same. They go to marriage counselors telling them how a relationship should be and his relationship ain’t even right.

Nelly On Tiger Woods In The Media…

I don’t see how all these wimpy ass cats are coming out talking about how they’ve lost all this respect for Tiger…. If I was tiger i would say “I’m apologizing to my wife and my family. I’m not apologizing to nobody else out here. I don’t owe nobody else anything. This was MY wife. That’s who he owes his apology to. He owes that to his kids. It has nothing to do with golf. That has nothing to do with a public perception. That was a personal relationship. That’s what I hate. He without sin cast the first stone. That’s how I feel. Can’t no one mess with that man on the golf course and I hope he comes out and whips everyone’s ass. I’m cheering for Tiger than ever now.

Nelly On Side Pieces and Jump Offs on the come up…

If Tiger would have been hanging with the brothas, he’d have been up on his game right now and we could have pulled him to the side and said “yo pimp, don’t do that. That’s not a good move right there. She’s gonna get you caught up homes”…and it would have been alright. There are opportunist everywhere and in everything that you do. It’s hard when you are the biggest at what you do. When you do that, they see dollar signs and even though they may not want to hurt you, survival is the most important top of the food chain. So when people see an opportunity to be successful, however it may come, they think about that. You don’t want people to think about being successful at your expense. Unfortunately there is alot of people getting rich off of Tiger right now (News, sports channels, magazines) and nobody is taking in consideration that his life is in shambles. Tell all these wimpy ass men to stand up and support the man. Not support what he has done. This could be you. Your business just not out there right now.

That was my 2009, no right one in sight so I will make do with what I got. I thought it would be fun to go through my 2009 dating line up to share with you what made all of my 2009 men deal breakers.

1. The never ending break up. Never make the mistake of trying to re-date your ex, especially when they aren’t even asking to get back together. I made that mistake of allowing that whole lets hang out as “friends” thing and boy did I learn my lesson.  Oh so we’re friends as you date other girls? Ya nooo. Don’t go there. I learned unless he is at your door begging for you back, he’s just killing time. Don’t be your ex bf’s security blanket.

2. Athletes- Sure they’re hot, successful and wanted by many, but at the end of the day most are utterly pointless. I talked to one NFL’er for a bit but realized I was just 1/500 others. I learned there is no point dating someone like that. As much as I love athletic guys and football, I could never sacrifice my happiness by staying with a professional athlete as a side dish. I don’t know how or why girl’s allow themselves to be involved in that. For 2010? Just say no to men who want more than one woman. Tiger Woods included. Who cares who they are, if you sense they are players, save yourself the time. If they leave her for you, they’ll leave you for her.

Joshy is irrelevant to this post Click to read more about my mistake men…

3. The Hot, Dumb Guys- Gosh hot dumb guys are so tempting. I’m sure it is the same with hot dumb girls, there is just something about dating a super hot guy… But like athletes, it’s all pointless if you have nothing else in common. So many girls date guys simply because they’re hot. The other night I met the hottest guy ever, but he was so dumb I just had to walk away. Most hot guys are obsessed with being hot, and need to be told they’re hot and wanted every second. Too high maintenance and the second you’re not feeding their ego they’re off to find someone else who will.

4. The Rich Guy- I meet so many guys who try to buy me, I have had cars, houses, shopping sprees offered, what ever I want, however I want none of it. I dated this one guy who wanted to get married without even knowing me. So many rich men just want to date a fun girl and fake a marriage. I couldn’t do it, nothing is more annoying than hearing rich guys constantly brag, “I am going to Miami for so and so’s party”, kewl! “I just bought a limited edition Porsche Px9sZ00″ kewl! The rich guys I were meeting were jaded, in their eyes, money buys whatever they want. There will always be someone hotter and easier they can buy if you get a lil lippy. I learned I could never be with someone solely for money.

5. The Fear of Commitment Man or should I say Boy- This guy would tell me we were perfect for each other, would tell me we’re getting married, etc. Joking or not we had a perfect friendship and never dated because he was too big of pu double s y to take it there. I knew we would have been such a perfect couple and BFFs but I got sick of waiting around for him to man up. Next

6. The Demanding Spoiled Guys- What is up with these weirdo men who instantly wanna call the shots? Asking for pictures of me? I don’t know your ass why would I send you a picture of me. They are also the guys telling you what to do right away. Wear your hair like this, wear this for me, etc. How about um no? I am sorry you’re used to getting your way with easy girls, but that road stops…um… here. How you deal with the fork in the road doesn’t matter to me. Go left, go right, but after one hang out you are not calling the shots, and not getting a picture.

7. The Players- I dated a guy who was dating 3 others girls. Deep down I knew what was going on but I pretended everything was ok. I learned to always trust my gut. If you think you’re being played, you probably are. If someone gives compliments too easily and they seem generic? They probably are. If someone is telling you they miss you but aren’t making plans with you? They are probably busy with someone else. All you players get left in ’09.

8. The Broke Joke- I am SOOO not the girl who only dates guys with money, both my past BFs have been broke, however I am 26, I can’t be splitting Golden Spoon tabs. I was talking to this guy who honestly would split $6.00 bills with me! I didn’t mind at first but I realized I had already been down this road. I can not take someone serious who can’t cover a $6.00 bill. The end.

That is all I can brainstorm for now. As you can see I have dated an array of mistake men and even though it was a blast getting to know all these clowns, I must kiss them all goodbye midnight of 2010. I left out many I dated probably because there wasn’t really one thing wrong with them, more so either bad timing or not much in common. Anyway…

My New Years Resolution is really to focus on keeping quality people in my life, people that only bring positivity and genuine friendship to the table. All this other bs I stated above is sewwww ’09.

Happy Almost New Year! And beware of 2009 dating! Lets really make 2010 the year we get what we want!