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July14th

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Who Is The Selfish One, Her or Him?

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts

So I am not one to normally take the guys side over girls, but lately??? I am kind of getting sick of all my girlfriends complaining about the same assh*les over and over. If I had a dollar for every-time I heard a “He’s sooo selfish…” I would be rich. Don’t get me wrong, I have most DEFFFFF been the complainer, I still complain, but it’s starting to make more sense to me. Did it ever cross your mind ladies, that perhaps… we’re just as selfish? It made me wonder…

Who really is the selfish one here? Us girls for asking these guys to be ready, or guys for simply not being ready?

If you stop and think about it, who says he has to love you the same way you love him, at the same exact time you love him, just because that’s what you want? I mean sure that’s ideal, but is it really his fault he’s not ready?

You tell him, “if you love me you should be ready” but if you loved him, wouldn’t you accept that he’s not ready? I mean I get it, we get sick of waiting, especially it he’s done you wrong, but you forcing him to be ready is an uphill battle you can’t win. It leaves you out of breath and him with a headache running for the hills.

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June3rd

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These Messages Must Stop

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts

Half of my heart breaks for guys like these, but then the other half rolls it’s eyes and says get a clue pal! World, meet Lance Martin. A random, but real important “publicist” from Hollywood. Apparently these days guys think Facebook is a female delivery service?

I know guys rely heavily on the “spaghetti theory” when it comes to crap like this, (Email 25 girls, and a few have gotta bite!) However, I am overrrr generic party emails from bros who just want a million babes at their super fun parties.

I mean c’mon… do a little research, my profile says I’m born in 1983. I’m 27 and you’re wasting your precious copy and paste time by sending me these messages. Not to mention guys like you don’t even want 27 year olds on your party bus, duh. We’ve long outgrown loving boys for comped bottles and party buses and end up being wayyyy more work than it’s even worth Forget your jungle juice, I want PJ Rose, a yummy meal, my shoes to not be spilled on, a clean seat and only my friends on board. No I don’t want to stop at Typhoon Saloon, and um, can you change the music?

So fellas, lets be a little smarter, if you’re gonna harass chicks on Facebook, please harass ones whose ages correspond with your event. I’d aim for hmmm…under 21? They will at least think you’re cool still. Besides, who wants to hangout with a random off Facebook who obviously lacks his own girlfriends anyway? Not me. After the Craigslist Killer, I am allllll set on Internet peeps, and your little bus is no exception!

But hey, if you have a party bus going to Nelly’s house? That’s a whole different story… pick me up at 8!
March21st

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Someone Tell Ke$ha To BURN That Bikini

Posted in: Celebrity Fashions & Gossip, Dating Do's & Don'ts

What in theeeeee… speechless at Ke$ha’s beach bod considering she sings about how bad ass she is all day. I dunno what boys are “blow blow blowin up her phone, phone” after seeing these pics. Yikes! The grandma bikini and lack of tan doesn’t help her case much either Ke$ha needs to hire me as a life coach, pronto!
January23rd

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Love Vs. Lust

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts

I found this article on askmen.com I thought it was cute and had a lot of insightful info for people questioning if they’re in love or lust. Want help deciding in love or lust? Here are the askmen.com deciding factors…

“Are you in love, or is it lust? Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. Lust is ground zero for hormones — it’s nature’s way of bringing the opposite sexes together to mate. In fact, without lust, it’s doubtful that love between a man and a woman would have a chance to prosper at all.

The driving force of the sexual imperative bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of the two sexes. So lust can be seen as one end of a broad continuum, which may or may not culminate in romantic love.

And love is the most ennobling of human emotions — transcendental, exalted and capable of engendering emotional states that can make the male of the species want “to be a better man.”

Men fight wars over lust, but they make homes and families for love. ♥

In Love With Lust

For men, lust is a heady experience; the brain goes on hold and red-hot surges of testosterone run the show. Lust, like love, is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell whether you’re in lust or love — whether she may be “The One,” or merely a passing fancy who’ll have your blood boiling for only a short while.

This is because men are perfectly capable of engaging in sex before they forge emotional bonds with a woman — and those raging hormones can easily disguise themselves as feelings of love.

The real danger is that both lust and love can rob a man of his natural strength and defenses — and then it’s all too easy to hand his male power over to a woman for sex-ploitation .

Lust is especially dangerous because it causes a man to think with his crotch and throw all reason and logic to the wind. When a man’s in lust he doesn’t care if he and his partner have anything in common. He’s not interested in where she comes from or where she’s going. His brain is only focused on using his key to unlock the door to the secret cave. If his partner’s only in lust, she’ll use this against him, but if they’re both falling in love, this sexuality is a bond.

Learn how to tell instantly whether you’re in love or lust…

So how can you tell whether it’s love or lust? Here are a few tips to help you sort things out.

It’s Lust If:

You’re totally focused on her looks and body
Even before you know her name, you’re already fantasizing about what she looks like naked and what it would be like to have sex with her.

You don’t care about anything she has to say
It wouldn’t make a difference to you if you never had aconversation with her. Furthermore, you don’t bother to return her calls promptly and you can easily go for days without talking to her — until you get horny again.

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October21st

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They Shoot Single People, Don’t They?

Posted in: Dating Do's & Don'ts, Your Best Life!

I was watching Sex & The City the other night before bed, what better way to get my blogging blood a-flowin than a good SATC episode. The episode on was titled “They Shoot Single People, Don’t They?” All the girls found themselves single at the same time and realized how much they hated it. One by one they began settling for random boyfriends they didn’t really even like. Charlotte began dating her handyman, Miranda a boring ex she was never really into, and Samantha some nasty Latin club owner guy who called them “we” which caused her to like him simply because he was ready to commit. They all decided they were happier with someone versus no one. Carrie couldn’t relate to this concept at all, which confirms I definitely am a “Carrie” when it comes to that show.

It made me think… there are sooo many people who haveeeeeee to be in a relationship to survive, why can’t people seem to exist alone? It seems that after every break up there is always one of the two, who is off and dating someone else in what seems to be over night. It’s so weird to me, not to mention disgusting… sharing your bed with someone else so quick? I understand if you want to date around, but after being in love with someone how can people move on so fast? I guess it goes back to that whole “disposable” concept. People now a days are so fearful of being alone that they treat each other as if they’re disposable. Like Jay Z says, on to tha next…

I suppose it’s just a way insecure, weak people cope with their loss, or maybe they never really cared about the relationship they were in to begin with? I know when I love someone, my heart needs time to slow down, catch it’s breath, and sew up any cracks before I am really ready to move on. I guess I am just loyal to love, even lost love. I’m also fine being alone, and realize you can’t fill one void with another void, eventually all the voids will catch up to you, just like a trash pile up. It’s not fun taking out the trash/being alone when you’re sad, but it’s one of those things that for me, isn’t optional.

It feels good knowing I’m strong enough to exist alone. I suppose dating someone new is a nice distraction after a break up, but it sure seems like a quick, temporary fix. As soon as things slow down and the distraction subsides, reality will be back tapping on your shoulder to remind you of the things you ran from. The only sure fire way through the storm is directly through it.

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September23rd

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STOP Double & Triple Texting!

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Do's & Dont's, Rants

Ok, so you met the cutest new guy or girl, you’re dyingggg to hangout so you shoot them a text. Great. Fine. Perfect, way to be aggressive. Ok but woops…. they don’t reply? Well bad news for you that’s not a good start. I know, I know there are a million things that could have prevented a reply. They did mention white water rafting when you met, maybe they’re out of town with no service? Your phone hassss been acting funny, maybe it didn’t send? Maybe they’re working? So yea, there are a few random .0002% chances that they never got your text, that is why I will grant you a second text. BUT after that, you are NEVER to contact them again unless they reply.

However with this second text, there are rules. Serious rules. And I said TWO texts total, not NINE.

FIRST and foremost your second text may NEVER say “Oh okkkk or not” “Okkkk fine don’t reply” “I guess you don’t like me ” Hello? Um I’m pretty sure they know they didn’t reply to you, no need to re bring it up like you noticed. Way to act totally desperate.

SECOND your follow up text should be DAYS later, not an hour later like you have nothing better to do than to worry about whether or not he replied.

THIRD The second text should have NOTHING to do with your first text. If your first text said “hey whats upppp.” Then the most your second text can say is “Hey, were going out later if you want to come let me know.” The second text should just be a poke reminder like Hi, I’m here. If he bites great if not, delete. He’s not interested .

FOURTH (Most important) After you contact someone twice, whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Text, Email, Calling whatever… if they do not reply after two tries, that’s IT. Never contact them again. I don’t care who it is unless they owe you money

FIFTH When you are ignored, you are not allowed to reply ANGRY texts! Forget you, forget it. Oh ok I see how it is. Whatever you’re not hot anyway… all I am reading is “I was rejected and I am mad!” Save face and just be quiet.

Example of just one of the psycho texters: Hsdkflfdjkahaha are you kidding?

PS LOL doesn’t trick me into thinking you’re laughing and don’t care.

Exception to the Triple Texting law: The ONLY exception to this rule is if it’s a friend or someone you don’t care what they think. This post is in regards to dating and new phone numbers in your phone, not really anything else. Courting someone does not mean chasing until you’re out of breath.

Disclaimer: Disregard these rules if you are an asshole ex boyfriend who messed up, call a million times until she forgives you. Actually you should be at her door crying with flowers not calling anyway.
September11th

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Trusting Your Gut

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Rants

I know I man bash a lot, thanks for still reading But geez, most guys my age are such disasters it’s hard to understand. Writing helps me vent and put things into perspective. Also hearing all these stories teaches me what I would and wouldn’t ever settle for. I see how broken some of my friends get from these guys and I can’t help but become upset. Are you guys ready for my latest story? Because this one takes the cake. Point of this story is, damn it if you feel something is wrong, like really wrong with the person you are dating, something IS wrong. I promise you.

This entire story left me sick and if I could prevent it from happening to someone else, then it’s worth telling. One of my very best friends was dating a guy for almost a year. Things started off amazingggg. No red flags, super fun dates, just two people getting to know one another having a blast. Best friends. He would tell her she was the one, talk about marriage, kids, and a life together forever. They had a few small problems but overall were madly in love.

Slowly things started to change. Her boyfriend became more and more distant as time went on but always reassured her things were fine he just needed alone time. It left my friend wondering what was really going on. Was he cheating, was he doing weird things, or did he simply want alone time and nothing was wrong? She trusted nothing was seriously going on and put it aside, however her gut told her something major was going on. I always told her there is noooo way he’s cheating on you, if anything he’s probably just scared to commit. Boy was I wrong.

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August25th

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Why Are Men Such Online Predators?

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Rants

I’ve huffed and puffed about this topic before, and to be honest, I don’t know why I even bother readdressing it, men will always be perverts, but what I don’t understand is why anyone thinks perverted messages are acceptable to send online?In the past week I have received a handful of sick, sick, scary, sick messages. Jaw dropping, vulgar, nasty messages. You guys need to get a grip on your Facebook advances.

So many guys use Facebook and other social sites to date off of, and fine do what you want, but sending gross/weird messages is absolutely pointless. I show my friends, we laugh and then I block you. Do you do it for shock value? Spaghetti theory? Some skank will bite? I don’t get the point.

With that being said, I figured I’d send you creeps some helpful info on how what NOT to do online.

1. Do not send me generic, bragging messages. So you’re rich, wanna spoil me, take me shopping, fly me all over etc. bla bla gag. You don’t think that’s weird? You just wanna fly a stranger all over the world? Just walk around the mall taking sugar baby shopping? Desperattttttte. And ya, I bet I’m the first girl you ever sent that message to right? Creepy, wait no terrifying and most def. not genuine. Plus no one likes a bragger. So you’re rich? Ya, rich and scary.

2. Fix your weirdo pics. Pictures from 1980 when you were hot, dirty bathroom pics, blurry pics, pictures cropped weird, those tiny pics people post bc they don’t know how to properly upload (Either you’re not smart or just way too old), pictures with piles of junk in the background, overly photoshopped pics, pics with a different random girl in every pic, we know your type “Hey can I get a pic for my friend back home, he’d never believe I’m here!!” yeah yeah. It’s 2010 and you’re lurking around the net, you need a camera and some normal friends to take pictures with. Successful lurkers have cameras, clean houses and friends they can take pics with, oh and know how to crop.

3. In a Relationship Status? Why are you messaging me? I always love going through my roommates friend requests, because they always have one friend in common with these weird guys, and it’s always me. Hehehehe woops. Anyway, the other day we clicked on one guy and I couldn’t even believe it, it said Married to Patty Smith or whatever. I got so mad! Poor Patty has no idea her sick husband is adding young floozies like me and my roommates on Facebook. That’s cheating. If you’re in a relationship or even worse, married, why are you adding younger, cute girls online? That’s called opening doors and you’re the last fool anyone wants to talk to. Appreciate Patty before I email her telling her what a creep you are. If Patty left you you’d fall apart and die so why don’t you get off Facebook and go give her a kiss. So over men not appreciating their women and using social sites to fantasize about other girls. My roommates and I will never like you. Get off the computer.

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