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August25th

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Why Are Men Such Online Predators?

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Rants

I’ve huffed and puffed about this topic before, and to be honest, I don’t know why I even bother readdressing it, men will always be perverts, but what I don’t understand is why anyone thinks perverted messages are acceptable to send online?In the past week I have received a handful of sick, sick, scary, sick messages. Jaw dropping, vulgar, nasty messages. You guys need to get a grip on your Facebook advances.

So many guys use Facebook and other social sites to date off of, and fine do what you want, but sending gross/weird messages is absolutely pointless. I show my friends, we laugh and then I block you. Do you do it for shock value? Spaghetti theory? Some skank will bite? I don’t get the point.

With that being said, I figured I’d send you creeps some helpful info on how what NOT to do online.

1. Do not send me generic, bragging messages. So you’re rich, wanna spoil me, take me shopping, fly me all over etc. bla bla gag. You don’t think that’s weird? You just wanna fly a stranger all over the world? Just walk around the mall taking sugar baby shopping? Desperattttttte. And ya, I bet I’m the first girl you ever sent that message to right? Creepy, wait no terrifying and most def. not genuine. Plus no one likes a bragger. So you’re rich? Ya, rich and scary.

2. Fix your weirdo pics. Pictures from 1980 when you were hot, dirty bathroom pics, blurry pics, pictures cropped weird, those tiny pics people post bc they don’t know how to properly upload (Either you’re not smart or just way too old), pictures with piles of junk in the background, overly photoshopped pics, pics with a different random girl in every pic, we know your type “Hey can I get a pic for my friend back home, he’d never believe I’m here!!” yeah yeah. It’s 2010 and you’re lurking around the net, you need a camera and some normal friends to take pictures with. Successful lurkers have cameras, clean houses and friends they can take pics with, oh and know how to crop.

3. In a Relationship Status? Why are you messaging me? I always love going through my roommates friend requests, because they always have one friend in common with these weird guys, and it’s always me. Hehehehe woops. Anyway, the other day we clicked on one guy and I couldn’t even believe it, it said Married to Patty Smith or whatever. I got so mad! Poor Patty has no idea her sick husband is adding young floozies like me and my roommates on Facebook. That’s cheating. If you’re in a relationship or even worse, married, why are you adding younger, cute girls online? That’s called opening doors and you’re the last fool anyone wants to talk to. Appreciate Patty before I email her telling her what a creep you are. If Patty left you you’d fall apart and die so why don’t you get off Facebook and go give her a kiss. So over men not appreciating their women and using social sites to fantasize about other girls. My roommates and I will never like you. Get off the computer.

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August23rd

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7 Signs You’re Dating a Player

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Uncategorized

Haha, I found this article on Cosmo.com and I had to share! The top 7 signs he’s probably dating you and uh yeah, 7 others. I loved it, so funny. Not like I can relate or anything… Some are so true, but some are so dumb. Anyway, here are Cosmo’s 7 player signs to look out for while dating.

1. All of His Exes Are “Crazy”

Be wary of a man who refers to his former girlfriends as crazy, psycho, or clingy — because what’s the common denominator here? Duh, him. The dude’s either nuts, or he never really wanted the relationship to work in the first place. Don’t forget, behind every crazy chick is probably (not always) a guy who made her that way.

2. He Plans Ultra-Romantic Dates
A cozy candlelit dinner is nice and all, but if he only takes you to secluded places, it could be a tip-off that he doesn’t want other women to spot him on a date. Next time he asks you out, suggest hitting up a busy restaurant or popular bar and see how he reacts.

3. He’s Hot and Cold on the Phone
He’ll text you 10 times in a night, then go MIA for days. He’ll chat on the phone for an hour, then ignore your messages for the rest of the week. Wondering what the hell is going on? We’re going to be brutally honest: He’s mostly likely busy dating other women.

4. He Guilt-Trips You
It’s normal for a guy to be eager to sleep with you from day one. But this behavior is a red flag if he a. lays the pressure on thick, or b. tries to make you feel bad if you choose not to have sex — like by giving you a sob story about blue balls. Point is he obviously doesn’t care about respecting you, all he wants is a quick solution to his down below problem.

5. Stuff Is Missing from His Facebook Profile
Did he untag photos of you and him? Refuses to add your pictures? Does he update or check it often, yet never mentions hanging out with you? Is his relationship status hidden? We smell a rat. A big fat rat. A guy who’s leery of commitment will make sure there are no traces of you on his page. Read More | Comments
August17th

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My Take on the Movie “Obsessed”

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Rants

So yeah, I am wayyyy too late in seeing the movie Obsessed, I know, but I just saw it last night and it made me furious. Lisa is suchhhh a wh*re. Probably not a good movie for someone like me to watch, I despise desperate, evil women who prey on taken men and the entire idea of cheating makes my blood boil. I thought I’d share my thoughts on the movie because it is such a perfect example of why men need to be smarter when dealing with pretty women, ESPECIALLY if you’re already in a relationship.

Here are the key points that I think Beyonce’s husband did wrong:

1. He allowed Lisa’s flirting. Hello? As if you guys don’t know when a skank is flirting with you. Her psycho comments about the dirty martini, the oh he’s so handsome and looks just like you remark, the calling your wife by the wrong name, it’s all apparent she’s playing games and a psycho. Why did he even listen to her? Why did he even sit and have a drink with her? You just like the attention sooo much it’s worth the risk of losing your entire relationship?

He put himself in that bad situation, what did he expect after drinking with such an aggressive wh*re? Um yeah no. FLIRTING that way is NEVER allowed when you are dating someone, let alone married.

He should have A. Never gone to the spouse free holiday party alone, knowing Lisa’s wh*re ass would be there B. If he did, he shoulda kept his space and not spoken to her at all C. He could have brought his wife anyway knowing the circumstance D. He could have not consumed booze E. And if he f’d up all of that still, he should have ran home and told his wife ev-er-y-thing. Typical weak man, preferred playing around with her advances and only backing off once the line was crossed. No. Why even go there. You all know what you’re doing.

2. He lied. Beyonce asked him, how did the party go, anything weird happen? At that very moment he had 2 choices: 1. Forget how tipsy and tired he was and tell his wife what happened or 2. Take the easy way and pretend absolutley nothing happened. Again he chose wrong. He should have taken the 5 minutes to tell his wife the truth. Honesty is everythingggggg in a relationship and well, we all saw the consequence he faced after losing that. They had a 3 month break and lost all his wife’s trust.

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August11th

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Why Too Much Love Drives Him Crazy

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts

I think the hardest part of being in a relationship is actually understanding what your bf wants is probably very different than what you want. Guys and girls have about as much in common as dogs and cats, so we have to remember what makes you happy doesn’t necessarily make him happy.

Us girls feed off of emotional love and support and well, during hard times, most men prefer the opposite, they want to handle it alone. It’s girls’ natural instinct to observe our boyfriends having bad days and wanting to do anything in our power to make it better, because well, that is what we want. We have a bad day and we want our boyfriends to call and talk about it, make dinner plans, lay in bed with us as we cry, the whole 9 yards. So when we see the guys upset, we do what we would want them to do for us, but in reality that’s not what most men want. Guys like dealing with things at their own pace, in their own space and actually enjoy figuring things out on their own. So next time your man has a bad day and you’re rushing to his side, take a step back and think about what he really wants, space.

It seems counterintuitive, but a new series of studies from the University of Iowa discovered that too much support can actually hurt your relationship. “There is this myth that the more encouraging you are, the better,” says lead researcher Erika Lawrence, PhD. “In fact, being overly helpful does greater damage than providing too little assistance.”

The study also discussed real life situations, men that had been in a tough place—often having been laid off—and the women dropped everything to help them: searching for position openings, proofreading their résumés, being extra affectionate, etc. They thought they were doing exactly what a loving girlfriend or wife should do. But in case after case, guys actually ended up leaving the partners who’d been the most outwardly compassionate. Men are crazyyy, but that’s naturally just how they function.

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July30th

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Miller’s Field in Pacific Beach & Our Wednesday Night Adventure

Posted in: Adventures, Boysss, Cocktails, San Diego Hot Spots

Sigh… oh beach bars, why do I continue going to you if I never have fun at you? Those of you that know me in person, know that I’m anything but a beach bar girl. I’m an indoorsy/spray tan loving, cyber weirdo who prefers the rain over the sun any day, and definitely rather go out Downtown than to a grimy, sandy beach bar where girls sport flip flops and knotted hair with pride. However… my roommates are the opposite, your modern day beach bunnies if you may, and somehow always end up dragging me out to the PB bars. I’m not saying no normal people go to beach bars, but you and I both know they attract some real weirdos. I’m usually the girl in the corner growling with the glowing DO NOT DIZTURB sign permanently embedded in my forehead, I really don’t know why my friends even want me to go?

You get the point… Anyway, the other night we hit up Miller’s Field in PB and I actually had an ok time! Gasp… I’m not sure if it was the bar or just the fact that I was out with my favorite friends, either way it was fun. We had a great time people watching and laughing at all the boys pick up lines. One by one they’d drop like flies. One of my roomies is recently single and has been having a blast going out, so we send all the wild boys her way. She’s the feistiest as well, so it always makes for a fun show. Anyway, the point of this post was that Miller’s Field is an ok beach bar if you are in town visiting and must go to one.

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July27th

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Why Are Men Wearing Headbands?

Posted in: BOYS Fashion Picks, Boysss, Celebrity Fashions & Gossip, Do's & Dont's, Rants

So the other day I was eating at Firehouse in PB and in walks this bro with bleach blonde surfer hair, a droopy muscle tank, too tight short shorts (By the way are these in style again also?) and a turquoise woven Indian headband. Yes a headband, Pocahontas style. We all stared at this guy confused like, hmmm did he lose a bet? Is he serious? No… he has to be kidding, but nope, sure enough he sat down at the table with the rest of his bros, who keep in mind, said nothing about his headband, and ate a nice lunch. Is this some new trend men have taken a liking to? I mean I know some girls who wear the hippie headbands and it’s cute, but guys? No. Never.

Guys, leave the headband wearing to us girls…
July6th

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To All My Cheaters Out There…

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Hot Topics, Rants

This blog post is lengthy, but I had to post it. It was written by a fellow female blogger and is a a greatttt post about cheating… why people do it, how to avoid it and exactly what it is. Cheating isn’t just kissing or sleeping with someone else, it entails soooo much, muchhhh more. Cheating is the scariest thing to me, because if someone doesn’t know exactly what it is, and how they avoid it, you just never know what someone can do to you… Read up and avoid!

Cheating rant begins:

“I fucking HATE it that cheating is so glamourized is TV shows and movies nowadays. Seriously, ALMOST EVERY SINGLE FUCKING SHOW INVOLVES CHEATING! Everybody is doing it, so why shouldn’t you? It’s portrayed as this thing that cannot be helped; is inevitable in all relationships. BUT THAT’S NOT TRUE!

Carrie Bradshaw is the character in Sex & the City that most women relate the most to. She believes in “The One”, passion, romance, and whimsically unrealistic expectations of men. She is also unbelievably self centered when it comes to relationships. I despise this sort of girls but thankfully, I don’t have to date them.

And even she cheated. TWICE. Once on Aidan with Big, repeatedly and with no intentions to stop till she got caught by Big’s WIFE. Embarrassing. Another time while married to Big… with Aidan. I consider kissing cheating too btw. Anything that will hurt your partner is considered cheating. Just coz she saw him in Abu Dhabi and thinks it *roll eyes* MUST be destiny.

“Here’s the litmus test – if it will upset the other person when they find out, I think it’s considered cheating. So if you have to hide it, you shouldn’t be doing it.”

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July6th

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Wondering Why Girls Keep Crappy Boyfriends…

Posted in: Boysss, Dating Do's & Don'ts, Rants, Your Best Life!

I’m not gonna lie, I have had my fair share of loser boyfriends, but what I don’t understand is how some girls never seem to outgrow this phase? Sure it’s hard to walk away (Been there, done that ten times trust me…) but once you do let go, you’re one step closer to being happy and finding exactly what you deserve. I know soooo many cute girls and how come so many of them have fool boyfriends? I am finally to the point where unless I am with someone equally invested in my happiness, I am 100% not interested. I am getting too old, and have too much self respect to sit and nag at some fool to give me what I know I deserve, how come not every girl feels this way? Before we go any further, yes this applies to guys as well, dating lame girls that is, I however am writing it from my view. Please save the girls are a mess too comments, trust me I know.

I think a lot of girls think they need a boyfriend, but realistically um… you don’t. What is even crazier is these guys the girls think they need, do nothing nice for them. I’m convinced most girls are totally in love with the idea of love and not the actual guy. I also think it has a lot to do with a loss of control. When guys back off and stop caring about the relationship, girls enter panic mode and try harder. No. Stop. Girls, most of the time when you pick up your lame-0 guy’s slack, he just ends up caring less. He sees how desperate you are to make it work and will abuse his control over you. Best thing to do? Back off. Your guy should want to be with you and want to put in equal work.

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