So I’ve been doing a lot of thinking lately, just about life, love, timing… it all gets so complicated and confusing. So this week my Sappy Sunday is about relationships and their timing. Last night at work I was talking to one of my tables about relationships, such a fun cocktail waitress I know… Anyway, he was telling me the girl he was dating was 26 and liked to play games. She liked to flirt with other guys around him and he was telling me how annoying it was because he was all about her and not into games. I told him I agreed, when you’re actually into someone, (Very different than just wanting to hook up with them)… you don’t play games. You care more about the person and their value than to play immature games. Playing games = not ready to be in that relationship. I told him yeah that’s weird and sucks, but maybe it’s just bad timing?

His friend chimed in and laughed, “Bad timing? There’s no such thing. Bad timing = bad person.” It made me think… Do you guys believe in the whole two people in the right place at the right time thing? Or do you believe you could meet your soul mate today, one not be ready, spend time apart, and pick up where you left off? I’ve never thought about bad timing meaning simply the person is bad for you forever?

To me once you start dating someone else tho, the old relationship never is the same. You lose interest and become excited about your new relationship. With both my exes in the past, when we broke up, I had the intentions of walking away but maybe going back at a later date. Looking back now? I’d never everrrrrrrrrr be with either of my exes again. Too much bad happened, too much drama, we all dated new people, old problems would re-surface bla bla no thanks. So maybe bad timing ruins all hopes of a relationship with that person in the future? But then here I go again thinking the opposite, well maybe if what I had with those guys was real, (Key word IF), maybe it could be possible to reunite later? If both parties were willing to conquer all the problems together?

My question to you all I guess is, how long do you wait to be on the same page with someone when dating? At what point do you walk away? Is there such thing as perfect timing or can you work together to create perfect timing? How many games does one endure until its time to let the other “not ready” party go?

I really think you have to date someone who might be a bit clueless on certain things, but at the end of the day is ready to admit to you, themselves and the world that they’re in a relationship. You don’t have to talk about babies and weddings or living together but why bother dating someone who simply isn’t ready to commit to you and only you, or who is busy playing games or putting other things first? Emailing/texting/hanging out with other girls, hiding you to certain people, flirting with other people, refusing to commit, why bother? I definitely believe in bad timing, and have yet to see bad timing = the right person, but I guess anything’s possible right? For me personally, if you take me for granted while you have me, and as a result lose me, I will want nothing to do with you after I clean up your mess, break free from your drama, and move on.

My only option is refusing to settle for less. If someone is not on your same page, communicate your needs and then give them a bit of time to catch up or to at least offer some sort of incentive for you to stay. If they continue to prove they’re not ready, let them go. You definitely can’t force someone else to be ready. Time will tell It will either be bad timing = bad person, or bad timing= better person later? A risk life forces us to take.

“Life is all about timing… the unreachable becomes reachable, the unavailable become available, the unattainable… attainable. Have the patience, wait it out It’s all about timing.”

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