It always amazes me how many people fail to listen to the message that is being delivered to them loud and clear by people around them. More importantly when it comes to relationships.

Today’s debate is what to do when your ex comes poking around again, are you listening to what he is, or more importantly ISN’T saying?

So you broke up…he dumped you, and now several months later he’s calling you again. At first glimpse it might look like he misses you and wants you back, but let’s look a little closer. What exactly is he saying to you? Unless he is on his hands and knees telling you he made a huge mistake letting you go, then chances are he doesn’t think that at all.

Hearing first hand from a guy who was an avid Ex- GF Drunk Dialer, I was enlightened to learn exactly what all those late night calls from ex boyfriends, and guys in general, really mean.

Girls get ready to do some serious double clicking…

Written by a one time skanky playboy:

Situations like this are rather complicated. Not because the answer or solution is complicated (you’re a smart enough girl to know that already).. but it’s complicated because it’s so hard to do what you know is best for yourself. I am not saying you are weak.. we all have those ex’s who we still somewhat care about and want to talk to and see.. even if it’s nothing more than pure curiosity. But what we have to do is put forth the effort to move on and let the past stay there. I’ve always lived with this one rule in dating.. If it didn’t work out before, what makes you think it will this time?

As far as what exes are doing when they contact ex gfs with nothing much really to say… he is reaching out to someone he knows he can reach out to. It goes back to my dominance theory. Whether girls like it or not, in a guy’s mind, he is dominant over you because you A) dated him once before and B) you continue to talk to him. He doesn’t look at you as a catch he has to go after, he looks at you as something he’s conquered before and knows he can go back to at will.

I used to do this kind of stuff to my ex-girlfriends all the time. The reason? Mainly out of boredom and usually around 2 am after a night of drinking. Or if I just got in a fight with another girl. Or maybe if I just got denied by a girl at the bar and want to feel better about myself. Bottom line, I never really wanted to get back together… I just wanted to feel important again by using someone I know can give me that. And definitely someone who I know will hook up with me if all I have to do is say the right things.

Don’t ever settle for suckers like I used to be.

There you have it girls, yikes! I definitely deleted a few numbers after reading that one. Bottom line, if a guy is not making a huge effort to tell you  loud and clear he is into you, want to see you, making plans with you etc… he’s probably just stringing you along. Delete and move on asap!

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