I would say life in my early 20′s was probably the craziest years I have had so far. Actually, every year before this year was pretty intense. You go through all these crazy relationships/friendships, cry, yell, wonder what is going on non stop, hate your jobs, move home and wanna kill yourself, question peoples intentions etc… I finally reached a point where I was faced with two decisions…1. Break my own crazy circle and STOP involving myself with the things that were slowing me down or 2. Keep hoping for change and just stick around waiting.

If you are in a situation where you are sticking around and hoping for the best, you most likely are wasting your life away. Unless you are in a marriage you should probably suck it up and move on. I also realized that nothing comes without constant work and determination. If you want something, start taking baby steps towards getting it. A lot of my girl friends complain about the lack of men they date, well, where are you looking? If you are at Typhoon every Wednesday night accepting Lemon Drop shots from random, sweaty, ex frat guys, then chances are you’re always going to leave disappointed. 98% of the men in dirty bars like that want one thing, and it’s not a relationship. Why are you still going there?

Click more to read about my “You Are What You Eat” theory on life

The point is, if you want to meet a nice, successful guy or girl, it’s most likely not going to happen at a club. The same goes for people struggling with their careers. You want a better job? Well, its not going to fall in your lap. It took me almost 1 year, hundreds of emails, 40 interviews and quitting several jobs to finally find one I actually enjoy.

You get what you give in life, no matter what the situation is, usually the harder you work, the bigger the reward. BUT when it comes to relationships sometimes, this isn’t always the case. Even if you are working super hard at it, sometimes the other person isn’t. Another chance to simply move on. If they’re not invested equally as much as you are, it’ll never work. I’ve become a pro at moving right along until I find something worth stopping for. (Still moving…..)

If you’ve been harassing your boyfriend for over a year now to commit to just you, to stop flirting with other girls, stop going out so much but nothings changed? It won’t. People don’t change until they have to. You sitting there allowing it equals NO change ever.

Long story short, I wish more people lived through actions instead of just complaining. I want to lose 10 pounds. I always complain I am fat. Well, the only way I will ever lose 10 pounds is to shut up, stop eating ice cream at 1:30am and to get my azzz in the gym more. Want to date someone worthy? Want to get a better job? Want to lose weight? Want to find better friends? Want to have a better relationship? Take the right steps to make it happen

Get outta PB bars, stop dating bartenders and athletes (my own lesson learned tssiss), put the ice cream down, and tell those shady, boy crazy gf’s, that don’t really care about you, to beat it.

Life is great at 25, and I know its only going to get better

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